Roopa, there are two issues here.
1. Your commitment and its challenges: The concern your parents have is not baseless. Financial issues are the biggest marriage killer all over the world. I’m by no means saying people can’t marry at a high income difference. But ask yourself – are you sure you’d never have any regrets for not marrying someone more “appropriate” for you by society’s standards? I don’t know how long you’ve known him, but I would recommend spending at least 2-3 years together before you start planning for marriage.
2. Overcoming resistance from your parents: First off, starting the discussion with your parents with the proposal for this marriage was not a good idea. In situations where you expect resistance from your parents, you should ideally introduce your boyfriend as a friend to your parents, at least a year before your probable marriage date. If you have some time on hand (a few years before your marriage), try to get your boyfriend to impress your parents the right way so that there resistance goes down, at least to some extent: How to Impress your Girlfriend’s Parents
Also try this for some general ideas on negotiating with parents: How to Convince your Parents for a Love Marriage . And if that doesn’t work, don’t be afraid to take the more direct approach outlined in this article. ;)
Let me know how things go.
All the best! :)
Not only were the Easons willing to take Quita, but they would gladly do so through the simple device of a power of attorney document, about 400 words long. The paper is signed by the old parents and the new guardians, and witnessed by a notary. As happened in Quita's case , no lawyers or government authorities are involved. The document is filed nowhere; it functions, in essence, as a receipt. Such agreements fail to satisfy the ICPC when custody of the child is exchanged across state lines and authorities in both states aren't involved. But that hasn't stopped some parents from handling transfers this way.
While our personal habits may determine the outcome of our financial health to a certain extent, to put all the onus on the individual is also extremely egocentric and untrue. Extremes of wealth and poverty are not completely the result of our own efforts and free will. That would mean the system is totally just. What human institution is totally just? The origin of this inaccurate notion is based in the Christian doctrine that emphasizes personal salvation, instead of collective salvation along with the notion of Manifest Destiny. If, and when, these paradigms shift, and people actually come to realize that they are suffering as long as other humans are suffering in one way or another, then real change is guaranteed.